I spoke to a group of other therapists last week about anger management control (I hate the term management).
It was a session about teaching clients how to live a life free of anger outbursts. Today I got the feedback. By and large, the feedback was positive. A few were negative.
I know for sure that negative feedback is necessary and important. I asked for it. Yet, there were two negatives that sat inside my head. They ran around like school children high on sugar and Coca Cola. They screamed and hollered back and forth.
The majority of positives? Ignored.
Jon Acuff calls this "Critic's Math" in his book, Start. He suggests that we tend to ignore the positive remarks and ruminate on the negatives. He further suggests we need to accept that fact and be on the look out for it.
I know it's true of me. How about you? Do you listen to the negatives more or the positives? What have you done to counterbalance this phenomenon? Tell me in the comments.