Joe and I view this topic from the same viewpoint so this series may be a bit one sided. The idea and practice of gender neutral parenting is much more about the parent than it is about the child.
Let's face it. We as parents cannot keep our children from the hurts and ill effects of growing up.
From what I have been reading and watching it appears that the parents who are pro gender neutral parenting are trying to change the world. Look, I am all for changing the world! I'm not sure that I am willing to sacrifice my children on my way.
Who are the ones that are effected the most in this experiment? Of course it's the children, not the parents.
Children will get teased and bullied no matter what. Does that mean we as parents should put a bullseye on them? Of course not! It is our job as parents to encourage our children to be the best they can be in life. Not to use them as social experiments to make cultural statements. After all, is there anything inherently wrong with boys wearing shoes with flowers on them? Of course not. And if he really wants to wear them that's fine. Should it really be an issue of gender neutrality though?
What is wrong with boys being boys and girls being girls? Nothing! In fact the world seems to work pretty well with clearly defined genders. After all at the end of the day boys are still boys and girls are still girls.
Notice that I didn't say gender rolls. I could personally care less who does what. I know male nurses and female prison guards. People should be able to do the jobs that they want as long as they can meet all of the requirements.
It really seems clear to me that the long and short term effects of gender neutral parenting look pretty bad for the children. Isn't it possible to raise children with clearly defined genders and still teach them to be aware of stereotypes and unnecessary biases?
Isn't it possible to raise our children to respect and appreciate both genders and understand the largest limitation is ourselves?