The other day while I was listening to Huffpost Live I was confronted/entertained by a segment that was aired on gender neutral parenting. Watch the interview in it’s entirety here.
The host (Dena Takruri) and a panel of four individuals discussed the issue(s) of raising children in a gender neutral environment.
This sparked some conversation between myself and my friend and colleague Joe Martino.
We will be writing a series of posts discussing the issue of gender neutral parenting.
We will discuss issues such as:
What makes gender neutral parenting necessary or un-necessary?
What are the affects on the children both short and long term?
Is it important that men and woman have well formulated gender identities?
Are there any effects on society for both short and long term?
I am excited about the conversation that this post will bring. I believe there is much to be learned.
Recently while reading I was confronted with a quick rule of decision making.
It’s the 10/10/10 rule.
When you are confronted with a decision and are stuck try applying this rule.
It’s really asking yourself three questions.
If I do this “thing”
This simple exercise will force distance into your decision making. It will push you backward so that you gain perspective.
Now this should not be applied to all decisions however it is a good tool to have tucked into your pack pocket to be pulled out and used when useful.
For other great ideas and theories on decision making check out the book Decisive by Chip and Dan Heath.
Last week I began to explore the issue of boredom and how it seems to be changing and taking on new meaning in the younger generations of our culture. Boredom quickly becomes associated with change as well as a resistence to engage in what a person percieves as troubling thoughts.
Often there is much time and effort put into figuring out why clients do what they do or don't do what they want. As well as understanding the "how" of what they do. Then we explore desired changes and how to make them. Many times this is where progress can stall.
Upon exploring the issues of why not change we often get to the issue of it just being time to grow up. Often the response to that is, "I know, but being grown up sounds so boring".
The issue may not be that the individual doesn’t want to grow up or fully enter adulthood. The real issue may be that the unknown is much more frightening than the known. Often it is true that many people continue in unhealthy behaviors and/or relationships because the prospect of changing is much to unsettling. In the same way boredom is the great unknown.
“If I stop drinking, smoking, shooting, watching, being, doing… then what will I do? I’ll just sit there and that’s just too scary for me”.
What do people get out of being constantly busy or occupied? What drives people to keep so busy that they literally do not have time to think?
Give me some feedback and some possible answers to the questions I am posing today. I am very interested in what others think about this topic.